Secret 5: Release. Let go of resistance

Rather than trying to control all outcomes, practise being open and receptive to life in all its forms. ‘When you no longer struggle to control the outcome of your life, you reduce inner tension, express your true nature, and connect with the world around you.’ 

This may seem ridiculous and impossible, but by simply breathing in and breathing out, we connect with the mighty waxing and waning of the sun and moon, seasons, tides, the birth and death of stars, of embracing what we need, and letting go of what we don’t. Our own path becomes clearer.

These energies relate to the Lung system, Metal phase, and Autumn. The process of individuation, connection and letting go, involves risk. Forming bonds exposes us to potential sadness and grief. The dance of separation and connection requires us to let the old leaves fall in order to allow new life to manifest. In the space between the in-breath and the out-breath is the internal abyss, the source of release and renewal.

When these energies are out of balance, we can become stiff and resistant, judgemental of ourselves and others, prone to respiratory disorders or constipation. Shallow breathing, with tension in the chest, diaphragm and our lovely soft rounded bellies becomes habitual. Instead, enjoy the interplay of air between our amazing bodies and the vast universe: the illusion of our separation from the world becomes obvious.

As Randine says, ‘Emotional healing comes through surrender, when you allow yourself to be taken to that unknown place where you have no control… Complete abandonment provides utter release and freedom’, the ability to recognise wholeness in others, and also in yourself.

‘I witness this incredible form of healing at every Fertile Soul retreat. As women who are going through similar heartaches share their stories, dramatic healing takes place. As they see each other, care about each other, and share their pain, their own pain lessens a bit. Though each of them may feel broken, when they connect with another person going through similar pain, they still see the other person as whole – and then can’t help seeing themselves that way too.’

Whole: despite, and because of, everything.

Jen ♡